Auntie Readme: I want to get back with my ex!
Free Bird from DC: Hey Auntie, I think I’ve hit a rough patch in my life. It’s February and all this talk of love and relationships has got me all torn up. See, it's been a rough year. I’ve just been feeling like shit. I keep blowing up at all my friends, friends I've been close with for decades! My deteriorating love life is certainly not helping.
Recently I’ve been thinking about my ex. What I see of her life seems so perfect! She broke up with that weird polycule she was a part of and started working on herself. She’s completely changed her political compass and is focusing on her own self improvement. It reminds me so much of when we were together.
Now, I know we were far from perfect. I know people thought we were a crazy couple. I told her she was controlling and needed to get off my ass about paying the bills. She made me pay crazy rent, made me tolerate her weird friends, and she did burn all of my shit when we broke up, but nobody’s perfect! People like to mention our age gap, she may be 1099 years old, but I’m 250, it’s all legal! I dumped her (tea in the bay) because I thought I could do better, but now that I’ve amounted to nothing, I see I was wrong.
So, should I call her? I really think we could be something again.
Sincerely, Free Bird
Auntie: Thank you for writing, Free Bird.
It sounds like you’re in quite the situation. To me, it sounds like you have some personal issue to work out before jumping into a relationship. Maybe try addressing some of those inner riots you feel. Then, maybe reconnect with this special someone as a friend. Build up a rapport before trying to pursue something more. Consider an exchange of goods, like jewelry or oil. As you get to know her better again, make sure you declare your independence and set your boundaries from the beginning. Maybe draw up some sort of constitution to establish the expectations of the relationship. Good luck, love!